Phone problem

We had a difficult phone conversation. We were discussing Aaron state date and he asked if I was jealous. I tried to explain again that I was not jealous but I didn't want to feel like someone else was getting to go on more dates with my husband than I do. Because that's a thing that I have said many times I need and I'm not getting enough of. He became frustrated because I repeated myself too many times and said that I don't pay attention to him. I asked him if he knew what I wanted in our relationship and asked him to tell me but he wanted me to tell him and said he didn't want to play a game. I asked him to tell me because I think he thinks he knows and hence is frustrated that I keep saying the same thing over and over but I think he doesn't really understand and I wanted him to see that he doesn't. Often you realize you don't understand something only when trying to explain it to another person. I was feeling more and more frustrated, hurt, and getting into the same habit. So I suggested that we talk another time when we were both feeling better. He didn't really respond except to say fine or whatever in a tone of voice that communicated frustration. I tried to reconnect bye reminding him and me that we were a team in a cheerful voice and saying everything was fine that we were just having a rough time communicating this morning and we would try again another time. He did not reconnect with me even when I asked specifically for him to do so. I followed the conversation with a text saying that I was disappointed that he hadn't reconnected with me.

I'm feeling worried and frustrated and really hurt because I don't think that he notices that I'm making an effort or appreciates it. And because I feel like I'm the one who's always trying to get us to reconnect and he won't or can't or doesn't want to and isn't taking responsibility for that instead blaming me for not making him feel like reconnecting.